Archive for October, 2008
I never heard the phrase “my people” until I was teaching in the late 1990s. It was a phrase one of my students– who I taught for two years– would use, much to my amusement, when she was bemoaning her peers. I loved the phrase and started using it. A lot. My people easily morphed into my person, and it continues to be a steady part of my slang.
So it should come as no surprise that a few years ago, this scene in Grey’s Anatomy just spoke to me. Not just because it used a phrase that I love, but also because it presented such a vulnerable truth. I, too, have my person. And I called her right away to tell her about this scene (perhaps her only character flaw is that she doesn’t watch Grey’s Anatomy). I have a few people, really,– who really recognize me, get me, understand me, and I imagine we all have our person or people. They can move away or get busy with work or family or school but, deep down, you know he/she/they are your person and you can call him/her/them anytime and that when you will do, it will be just like you never spent a moment apart.
The another night, I was reading American Wife, and there was a passage there that reminded me so much of what takes someone from being a friend to being your person:
People recognized you or they didn’t, and it was unrelated to knowing you. Knowing you could just be your name or the street you lived on, your father’s job. Recognizing you was understand you had thoughts in your head, finding the same thigns funny or excruciating, remembering what you’d said months or even years after you’d said it (page 66)
Back to me:
So, today, I am sending a Cheers! out to the people in our lives who recognize us, who see us for who we are or aren’t and do not try to put us in a box that is not of our own understanding and to each of you, who come here willing to see me however I am.
I am reading American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld right now. A friend had emailed me to tell me she thought it was delicious, and my book club is reading it for November (we thought it would be good to read something sort of related to politics for election season). It is pretty delicious so far (and sometimes I feel like I need to cover my eyes while I am reading!).
Next on the list of things I want to read are:
Time of My Life by Allison Winn Scotch which is getting fabulous reviews, and I am just, in general, a fan of Allison’s work. I also LOVE the book cover. It’s just beautiful– and sets a great tone.
On Beauty by Zadie Smith
I am Charlotte Simmons by Tom Wolfe
Moose by Stephanie Klein
What other books should I add to my winter list?
Women are extremely stressed. In fact, women’s stress levels are exceeding men’s in the recent financial situation. 33% of women feel EXTREMELY stressed. And, since women ‘tend’ to men, children and other women*, that is negatively impacting all of us. Female friendship combats stress, so we’re doing our part by sharing 10 Ways to Reduce Stress for Women.
* From ‘The Tending Instinct,’ by Shelley E. Taylor. Excellent book on the biology of friendships and the differences between men and women. Female friendships make women healthier, happier, live longer, less stressed and feel more beautiful – all amazing, powerful benefits to offer your ‘girlfriends’/female audience!
Last Wednesday night, we recognized the eight Hijas selected for the Circle de Luz Class of 2014 at a ceremony held in the auditorium of the high school they will attend. Families and friends attended as well as local M’ijas and school officials. It was an absolutely lovely night. After remarks from members of the Circle de Luz board of directors and a representative of the North Mecklenburg Rotary Club, the group who so generously funded the eighth scholarship and also sponsored the recognition ceremoney, we called each girl individually forward with a family member to sign their Letter of Commitment to Circle de Luz and they received their certificate of recognition, a Circle de Luz Class of 2014 necklace (it is the Isabella styled necklace with a tag on it that says 2014), and a flower. The girls came forward with moms, dads, and even a big brother, and the family member put the necklace on each girl. Jennifer Fowler, one of the Circle de Luz board members, provided a closing that summed it up best.
With the holidays approaching, you are likely thinking about how to celebrate the girls and women in your lives in a meaningful and beautiful way. We encourage you to consider the beautiful handcrafted necklaces created for Circle de Luz by artist Mary Alice Mitchell. There are three beautiful options and all of the proceeds go to support Circle de Luz programming with the Hijas. Each necklace is handcrafted to your order specifications and come to you packaged in a gift box with an explanatory note about Circle de Luz. Because orders take 3-4 weeks to process, and we’re hopeful for a flurry of holiday orders, we wanted to remind you about this beautiful gift option now so that you might go ahead and place your order to receive it in plenty of time for the holidays.
The Circle de Luz Necklaces were uniquely designed by artist Mary Alice Mitchell to benefit Circle de Luz. Each sterling silver design on a sterling silver chain with handcrafted clasp evokes the moon and star symbolism of Circle de Luz. Handmade at the time of your order at the length of your choice, each necklace is a unique piece of art, and all proceeds go to Circle de Luz, allowing us to provide dynamic programming for our hijas.
The Isabella Necklace A simple sterling silver star floating inside a circle. $45
The Eva Necklace An organic sterling silver textured moon charm with pierced moonstones and overlay star. $65
The Sofia Necklace A sterling silver three dimensional moon globe with a pierced star. $105
Want to place an order? Complete the order form, email it to firstname.lastname@example.org at your earliest convenience so that we can place your order with our artist, and then proceed with the payment option of your choice. Please allow 3-4 weeks from the time we receive your order for processing and delivery.
There are over 2 million breast cancer survivors in the U.S. Multiply that by all the friends and family, and this disease (and other forms of cancer) puts a definite strain on friendships. In honor of National Breast Cancer Awareness month, we offer 10 Ways to be a Good Girlfriend to a Friend with Breast Cancer. Interviews with women with breast cancer gave great insight into how to be a friend through this difficult situation.
Screening of the documentary “What’s Your Point, Honey?”
Wednesday, October 29 at 7:00 p.m.
Storrs Auditorium, University of North Carolina at Charlotte
What’s Your Point, Honey? puts a new face on political leadership by introducing seven possible contenders coming down the pipeline, while revealing inequalities that still exist today. Six years ago, with the support of the The White House Project, CosmoGirl! launched Project 2024, an initiative to get more young women involved in politics so that we could see a day when just as many women as men run for the highest office in the country – getting beyond gender to agenda. Two other age groups, teens and tweens, weave in and out to present the next generations’ take on the topic, giving a little jolt and some comic relief along the way. The event will be held Wednesday, October 29 at 7:00 p.m. in Storrs Auditorium. This event is free and open to the public. This is event is hosted by the Women’s and Gender Studies Program, skirt! magazine, and the Feminist Union.
My birthday is approaching and I am coming up with my newest list of things to do in my 35th year. And I’m stuck. So I am turning to you for some inspiration. What would you do in this life if you could do anything you wanted? And what do you want to do in 2009? Your ideas can be huge (go on a safari) or small (take a quiet walk alone every week)– my lists span the gamut! Thanks for sharing and inspiring!