Wooing baby

First of all, let me start by saying that on my birthday I officially scratched something off of my birthday list.  One down, 35 items to go.  The item to get done?  Complete this Strengthfinders assessment that was part of a book that a friend gave me a couple years ago.  Turns out my strengths are:  Maximizer (which means that I focus on strengths as a way to stimulate personal and group excellence), responsibility (I take ownership of what I say I am going to do), Input (I have a craving to know more), Believe (I have certain core values that are unchanging and they give me a defined purpose for life), and empathy (I can sense the feeling of others).  Yeah, that’s fairly accurate but can it be any less exciting?  Seriously, I wanted my strengths to be activator, connectedness, harmony, restorative, and woo.  Aren’t those words so much more fun?  I mean, seriously, someone’s strength can be woo?  If we’re wondering why all the junior high boys did not beat a quick path to my locker, well,  it’s because I lacked woo.   Nonetheless, without or without woo, I get to scratch something off my list and that’s pretty cool. 

I am, however, having a fun time wooing baby into loving books.  Up until this past week, baby has not been so into the books which, as you might imagine, hurt my feelings.  But, finally, baby’s attention span is lengthening and his need for constant activity is lessening and so he is now willing to sit in my lap and have me read to him.  Be still my beating heart!  Book of the week?  Please Baby Please by Spike Lee and Tonya Lewis Lee.  I dig it, too, which is good since I have to read it 15 times in a row.

In other news from around the world of baby, he’s learning what different phrases mean and that’s pretty cool.  When I say ‘it’s time to eat’, he walks over to his high chair.  He also goes to his brown chair in his bedroom when we’re sititng in the living room and I say it’s time for night-night (and he tries to say night-night which is pretty darn sweet) because he knows that’s where we cuddle before he goes to sleep, and, finally, he goes straight to the changing table in his bathroom when I say that we need to change his diaper.  And he stands there and looks at me, waiting for me to lift him up onto the table.  Go little guy.  Seems he has woo in his bucket of strengths!

 

 

 

 

 

36 Things to Do Before Turning 37

It is that time of year…  Birthday List Time!

I didn’t do so great with last year’s list: just 9 things out of 35 completed; so I am putting lots of structure in place for this year’s list.  I bought a journal and calendar that is list specific– especially because about 7 of the things on my list are things that I really need to be doing every week to accomplish them.  And I did a collage a the beginning of the journal of the themes in my list to give me a little visual reminder.  I am also aiming to get one thing knocked off the list on the very first day– TODAY– just to give me a little momentum.  Maybe that way, I’ll get at least 10 things scratched off this year’s list.  

Curious as to what made the cut?  Here’s an excerpt from this year’s list with some commentary, too. 

Complete book draft  (this one HAS to be done by February 1st!)

Get a third book contract (my wonderful agent has a book proposal in hand!)

Write 6 new essays

Have at least 10 speaking events (I put the travel on hold some this year with the new babe but hope to do a bit more of it next year)

Go to at least six readings/ presentations by authors. 

Earn $10,000 in program donations for Circle de Luz.

Landscape the back yard. 

Clean out our attic (my goal is to get this done by January 1).

Take a cooking class. 

Create the perfect back porch space.

Have a plentiful backyard garden. 

Run for an hour.

Read 36 books (I only got to 25 this year).    

Clean out mom and dad’s attic (this one makes me feel overwhelmed just typing it). 

Keep a weekly journal for baby. 

Document baby’s second year with a daily photograph.  

Do art every week.

Do The Artist’s Way (I did this book/program in my early 20s, and it launched me, inadvertently, on my writing career.  I wonder what it would source up now). 

Take a creativity, self-awareness, art, or writing class/retreat. 

Take singing lessons.

Go horseback riding.

Check out the local whitewater center. 

Ah, drat, I just looked over my list and there are just 35 things on it.  Must find a 36th.  Any suggestions?

What books did we read to prepare?

Alright, so here’s a quick round up of books we read in preparation for our adoption or after coming home that might be of interest to you.  Got any to suggest?  I have 36 books to read this coming year and am always looking for great suggestions!   

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver’s Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best

Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adopted Parents Knew by Sherrie Eldridge

The Connected Child: Bringing Hope and Healing to Your Adoptive Family by Karyn Purvis, David Cross, Wendy Sunshine

Lucky Girl by Mei-Ling Hopgood

Love in the Driest Season by Neely Tucker

There is No Me Without You by Melissa Faye Greene  

Ethiopian Amharic Phrasebook by Lonely Planet

I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla by Marguerite Wright

Run Big, Dream Big I

So, this started with my birthday list. For those of you who don’t know, I write an annual list of things to do each year as part of my birthday celebration. And this year’s list (my birthday is this Wednesday, November 18th, so I’ll share more of my list then) had two things on it that I decided to bring together into one.  Item # 1: be able to run for an hour on my own. Item #2: raise $10,000 for Circle de Luz. Now, those things don’t naturally have anything to do with each other EXCEPT that I am not inclined to run without a purpose– you know, like from a bear chasing me or towards chocolate. So, to get myself to run for an hour, I have to have a reason. And I’ve decided to make raising money for Circle de Luz my reason.

What is Circle de Luz? Launched in 2008, Circle De Luz radically empowers young Latinas by supporting and inspiring them in the pursuit of their possibilities through extensive mentoring, programming, and scholarship funds for further education. Circle de Luz not only gives girls (we call them Hijas) the financial means to pursue an educational program of their choice after high school graduation, the organization also provides the girls with six years of dynamic programming and mentoring.  Every month, we offer at least 2 programs for our Hijas (and they are constantly asking for more!).  But to make these events happen, we need funds.  Our programming dollars come from sales of our necklace, grants, and any other fundraising or sponsorships we are able to secure.  Next year, we have big plans for our girls, but we need the funds to back up our dreams and their’s.  

So my birthday list items have now been combined into one major goal.  On March 6, 2010, my goal is to have at least 32 people run the Corporate Cup race (options are a half-marathon, a half-marathon relaty made up of two 5 mile legs and one 5k leg (3.1 mile), or a 5k) in downtown Charlotte as a celebration of raising funds for Circle de Luz.  If you aren’t in Charlotte or can’t travel to Charlotte, keep reading because there’s an option for you, too.   

Here is how it will work: We are looking for at least 32 people to commit to participating in any part of the Corporate Cup and using it as an impetus to raise funds for Circle de Luz.  We’re calling it Run Big, Dream Big I.  Your goal?  $325.  Why $325?  There are 13 Hijas in Circle de Luz, and we are asking each participant to raise $25 for each girl.  By raising $325, you will provide at least 2 programs for the girls sometime in the following year or pay for a full day of Circle de Luz wellness camp for one girl.  

Won’t you join us by going the distance for Circle de Luz?

If you decide to go for it, what happens?  Well, first, you’ll receive a packet from us of information on training for the run, registering for the run,  and setting up your fundraising web-site.   You will also get a sample first letter to send to your friends and family to begin your solicitation for the run.  Finally, as things get underway officially in January, we will organize group runs for whoever can participate on Saturdays in January and February and provide any additional help you might need leading up to race day. 

Are you game?  Email circledeluz@gmail.com as soon as possible to let us know if you’d like to do it, what distance you are interested in (we can help you find a relay team if you’d like to run the 1/2 marathon relay and need teammates), and if you have anyone who also wants to do this with you.  Once we have our team of 32, we’ll send the welcome email with all the details you need.

Don’t live in Charlotte but would like to participate?  If you aren’t able to travel here but would like to do a run or walk in your community this spring to raise money for Circle de Luz, just let us know via email and we’ll help you work out the details and find a race that works for you in your area! 

Are you thinking there is no way you’re running from anything but a bear or towards chocolate but you are willing to donate?  Check out my fundraising page here.  Just make sure to write a note where it says “add special instructions to merchant” that the donation is for Rosie’s fundraising run effort.  That way I’ll get a note about it and can properly thank you (with a tax deductible note, too)?   

Thanks so much for even considering being involved in this effort in any way! 

swimming in it so photos

The Longhorns are doing great in fb, baby. There's no need to cry.

No words for this sweetness, really.

approaching the finish line

So, I went to contract for the book I am working on right now at the end of July/ beginning of August, and I promptly started writing.  My acquisition editor (the editor who acquires books for the publisher) told me that my editor (who also happens to be the publihser) would be in touch with me.  And so I started writing and figured I’d hear from my editor when she was ready. 

“Have you talked to your editor?”  A friend asked in September. 

“Nope.” 

“Are you going to contact her?” 

“Nope.”  And here was my rationale for why (in addition to my general shyness about that sort of thing, my general desire to not be a pain in anyone’s derriere, and my fairly laid back nature):  each day that I worked on the book without having any deadlines, I was being virtuous and was totally ahead of the ballgame.  The minute my editor and I spoke and we set a deadline, I would– no matter how far I was in the writing- be behind and in a mad rush to finish.  I’m not going to lie:  I like being virtuous far more than sweating a deadline. 

I finally talked to my editor this past Friday and it seems the good deadline free times are over, and I have a deadline.  The deadline for everything (and everything will be about 400 pages) is January 1 (which really, come on, means December 30– even for Little Miss In Bed By 9 PM on New Year’s Eve.).  As of today, I am on page 270.  So, 130 pages to go between now and December 30 except that I still need to edit all 400 pages. 

So, here’s my plan:  get it all written by December 4th and then heavy editting from December 4th to December 29th. 

The curveball in all this: my worktime has gone down to 12 hours a week and that’s not just my book writing– that’s my freelance writing, teaching, lesson planning, paper grading, Circle de Luz organizing, and book writing time.  Doable, but I’ll need to be disciplined.  But the truth is that being on deadline really doesn’t change anything.  I still approach my work exactly the same way.  I do the math– to get the book done when I want to have it done, I need to write about 35 pages each week.  I have 4 hours each week out of the 12 that I can guarantee to the book and that means I need to write at least 8-9 pages an hour.  That means, I sit down at my computer for those hours. I close my email inbox and I pound out the words, even if they are not the most eloquent words in their first form.  The key isn’t to wait until the brilliant words hit me.  The key is to get something down on the page so that I can craft and mold it later.  And that’s true for every finish line we want to approach, isn’t it?  We figure out what we need to do to get to it and we just do it.  Consistently.  We pound out the words, the miles, the work.  Ignoring the rules that say it won’t work, and embracing the part of our selves that says that it must.

Some of the adoption blogs I read

It’s National Adoption Awareness Month and I think that one of the best ways to build one’s awareness about adoption is reading about the personal experiences people have had with adoption.

Here are just some of the adoption blogs I read: 

My African Princes-  You can’t resist these three darling boys.  Two of them are Ethiopian and one is South African and their mom is great about posting and sharing her ideas and experiences.

There is No Me Without You Occassional Blog-  Melissa Fay Greene, the author of There is No Me Without You, blogs only occassionally but her posts are very useful and informative.

Ethiopian Tripletland- I have a thing for multiples. Just love ‘em.  So this blog about Ethiopian triplets in the heartland undoes me.

Party of 5- Back to the multiples.  This family has three darling kids with twins from Haiti.  They also have great parenting stories, insights, and recipes.     

Ethipian Adoption Journey- This single mom adopted a baby girl from Ethiopia earlier this year and honestly shares the joys and challenges of the experience.

Rooted in Love- This family traveled with us to Ethiopia and we enjoyed getting to know them and their boys while we were there (and have continued a close friendship with them since).  They adopted 2 older boys who are both deaf.  This blog is rich with insights, experiences, and strategies.        

The Wardrobe and the White Tree- This family also traveled with us to Ethiopia and adopted an older boy.  They have two other children, one of whom they adopted domestically at birth.  Also very rich with insights and experiences.

appreciating the little things

I thought it was a good time to focus my eye on appreciating some of the little pleasures in my life… hope you’ll add your pleasures to my list.

• sleeping more (who am I kidding, that’s not a little pleasure at all.  It’s huge!)
• the brilliant red, bright yellow, and blazing gold of the fall leaves.  In the field across the street, the dropping oak leaves make it look like it is raining gold.
• It’s soup season, and I had a bowl of it almost everyday this week. 
• Fabulous weather: perfect light, perfect temps, give me more. 
• a weekend day of doing nothing.  Love it when no one expects me to be anywhere at any particular time, and I don’t have to work and anything that gets done is gravy. 
• a little boy who just cracks me up.  all day long (and a big boy who does, too).   

Local reading on Monday!

Hey, are you in the greater Charlotte area?  If so, come join me for a reading at 3:30 pm on Monday, November 9th.  I’ll be reading from Hijas Americanas and answering questions in the C. Shaw Smith 900 Room in the College Union at Davidson College.

Three favorite pictures from last week

On the way to the pumpkin patch. Evidently, pumpkins are finger lickin' good.

Baby was walking to the shower when I snapped this pic mid-fall. I know it totally looks like something else was going on. And that makes me laugh.

It was touch and go there for a second but our lion ended up being a happy one.